Dear Laurie: My boyfriend speaks to me in a way that really gets me annoyed. He tells me what to do instead of asking me nicely. At times I feel like he thinks he owns me. We have been together for 20 years and nothing has changed. I know I’m part of the equation because I’m still with him, so how can I change so he will? — Nancy I understand,…

Dear Laurie, I feel like I’m in a rut and can’t get out of it. Can you help me? I would really appreciate it! Donna – – – Dear Donna, I don’t have any details about the rut you’re in, so my response is pretty generic. The first thing to do is find time to sit quiet, close your eyes, breathe and relax. Allow all of your feelings to come…

Dear Laurie, My husband picks on me a lot and my self-esteem is draining. How can I get it back without getting a divorce? Thank you! Barbara Dear Barbara, Thank you for writing in. Asking for help is a positive action step of self-love. To begin, I suggest taking some time to discern your feelings and desires: How does it make you feel when he is picking on you? What…

Dear Laurie, My boyfriend and I broke up and I’m so sad even though I know we are done. He says we are just different. I do miss him and the happy times but not our fights. How can I stop wondering if he cares for me and move on? Patricia   Dear Patricia, Thank you for your question. After a breakup, when our feelings are still invested, it is…

Dear Laurie, A family member thinks it’s funny to make jokes about me but I don’t think it’s funny. The jokes are geared toward areas in my life that I don’t feel good about myself and he knows that. I have told him that I don’t think it’s funny, but he continues to say the same things and I’m tired of it. Am I being too sensitive? I feel I…

Lie down and make yourself comfortable. Close your eyes, relax and rest. Feel your breath coming in and out of your nose. Set your intention: “I intend to feel my pure essence. I intend to feel oneness and to know who my divine self is here on earth. I invite in my higher self to help me with this quest.” You are pure potential beyond your personality and small self…

I caught myself telling myself that a particular person doesn’t like me and my mind was proving it to me, “they didn’t say happy birthday, they don’t post on my wall.” And, then I stopped and said, “Would I point out to my best friends the people that don’t like them and all the reasons why? And, of course I would NEVER! So, if we are being our own best…

Dear Laurie, I’m writing to you in the middle of my trip moving my life across the country. My mind is spinning in anxiousness about the unknown. I’m making myself extremely fearful and worried. How can I keep myself calm? Thank you for your advice! Gina Dear Gina, Congratulations on having the courage to make a big life change. I’m so glad you realize that your own thoughts are creating…

Dear Laurie, I’m looking for greater fulfillment in my life but I don’t know where to start. Do you have any suggestions for me? With an open and grateful heart, Michelle Dear beautiful, open and grateful-hearted Michelle, I’m so glad you are listening to the whispers in your heart that are moving you toward more joy and happiness in your life. By the mere fact that you are listening, asking…

Dear Laurie, When things don’t go my way I have a habit of being really hard on myself. I would like to stop beating myself up. What do you suggest I do instead? Nicki Dear Nicki, I’m sure many people can relate to your question. I’m glad you have an interest in being kinder to yourself. Make an agreement with yourself to practice living like you are your own best…