Heart to Heart: Staying calm in the midst of life’s big unknown

Laurie Martin

Dear Laurie,

I’m writing to you in the middle of my trip moving my life across the country. My mind is spinning in anxiousness about the unknown. I’m making myself extremely fearful and worried. How can I keep myself calm?

Thank you for your advice!

Dear Gina,
Congratulations on having the courage to make a big life change. I’m so glad you realize that your own thoughts are creating your anxiousness. The good news is that you can now create a new outcome by changing your internal dialogue. Lets take a moment to get grounded and draw your awareness inward and practice being peaceful.

Sit or lie down. Close your eyes, breathe and relax. Bring your focus on feeling your breath coming in through your nose and out through your nose. Relax some more. Breathe in love from the most loving and highest source of love available. Take this love in through nose. Feel this love like a warm current flowing down your whole body. Feel this love in your heart, soften and relax. Breathe in peace and feel peace flowing down to your toes.

Place your hands on your heart and spend a moment acknowledging your emotions. Say to your fears “I accept this moment. I hear you, thank you for trying to protect me.” Gina, you are now going to step forward in a more powerful way acknowledging yourself as having pure potential as a beautiful, fully empowered being. Say, “I’ve got this. All negative, limiting, worrisome or fearful thoughts are banned from my personal experience and every part of my being. I choose a reality of living in peace. I intend to live in the present moment with a calm demeanor and a positive attitude. I know this is a wonderful new adventure. I don’t know all the detail of my future, but I trust this journey. I intend for a smooth transition and know everything is falling into place perfectly. Only positive, life affirming, kind, compassionate and encouraging thoughts are welcome in my experience.”

Allow love from your heart to pour forth encompassing your fears. See this love transmute the fears into love and light. Now breathe with a smile and feel/see this smile in your eyes, heart and every cell in your body. Relax, let go, be present, trust and smile.

Begin to play the gratitude game. State out loud, “In this moment, I’m grateful for…(begin listing every small thing you appreciate, love and express why.)

You are the writer, director and actor in this play of your life. You now are writing a new script for your character. This script is depicting your character, you, as calm, confident, happy, peaceful, feeling connected to the oneness of everything and excited for your new life. Enjoy this adventure! I wish you many wonderful experiences!