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I’m excited for my new personal accountability challenge! Everything we do either has a positive or negative effect on our world. And, now even more, our world needs our help! It’s time to really step it up. It’s encouraging to know that my own daily actions can help our world. Taking accountability is a representation of “truth” and “right action” which impacts the frequency of the collective consciousness and our own personal empowerment.
Everyday occurrences, even being aware and accountable for the small occurrences makes a difference. There have been times that we may have made excuses in our mind, told small white lies or pretended we were not responsible for something by making someone else accountable.
The planet is correcting itself now, and needs our help. As you have noticed, anything that is not set with a foundation of truth, honesty, kindness and oneness is coming up to the surface in consciousness, coming out in public for us to see. These actions of corruption, malicious behavior and deceit can’t hide any longer and people are being forced to take personal accountability. Let’s build our empowerment by voluntarily looking for ways to be 100% personally accountable.
Start by waking up in the morning and asking, “How can I help our planet? How can I be honest in all of my relationships, in business and my actions? How can I show empathy and compassion to others? How can I heal my own areas of judgment, racism, sexism, ageism, rage, and pain? How can I behave in a way that is the exact way I would like to be treated? How can I treat my body and mind with love and respect? How can I express from my heart? How can I connect with others on a heart level?
Look for these small daily occurrences to make a positive change. Here are some examples:
- You purchase items in a store, walking to your car you notice they gave you .50 more than you were owed. Do you go back to the store? Yes.
- You miss a business appointment. They call you to find out what happened. Do you lie and make up an excuse? No, you apologize and explain the truth.
- You’re taking a walk and you see a water bottle on the ground. Do you pick it up or ignore it and keep on walking?
- You are at a party talking to a group of your friends. You see someone all alone standing in the corner. Do you turn away and pretend it’s not your responsibility to show kindness and compassion to this person or do you walk over and introduce yourself?
- Do you feel good about your recycling efforts or do you look the other way sometimes?
- You are receiving flirtatious behavior from a married man. Do you flirt back?
- You are unhappy in your marriage. Do you look for emotional support somewhere else from the opposite sex?
- Your neighbor’s garbage can is knocked over and was pushed into the street. Do you ignore it or pick it up and bring it up to your neighbor’s home?
- When asked questions that you are uncomfortable answering, do you try to make the other person wrong?
- During your day, do you have more negative thoughts towards others and yourself versus positive?
- Do you expect a professional to give you their time for free?
I would love to hear how you are accountable for your daily occurrences. Please share!
I personally thank you for your healing contribution to our world!
Love & Big Blessings!
With Gratitude,
Laurie Martin
Laurie Martin is a leader in the arena of Self-Love – body, spirit and mind. As a professional speaker, certified life coach, author of Smile Across Your Heart: The Process of Building Self-love, yoga teacher and radio host . Laurie Martin shares her passion and knowledge guiding others “how to” increase self- love, confidence, self-esteem and live a truthful, peaceful, empowered life. She has two columns, one in the Naples Daily News called Heart to Heart, and the Ask Laurie column in Pulse Magazine. Sign up for her FREE newsletter, Visit http://www.SmileAcrossYourHeart.com.
Sick of hearing all of the negative news everywhere you turn? Worrying about your home, daily needs and our world affairs can be a little stressful too.
Take a week off from watching the news, reading the newspaper and engaging in conversations that make your blood boil or worrying about your parents. Instead, give yourself a “self-care” week. During this week, engage in conversations with people that are a positive influence in your life discussing things that make you happy, you will read only inspiring books, watch uplifting movies with happy endings, eat healthy organic fruits and vegetables, do your favorite cardiovascular exercise and take plenty of warm Epsom salt baths. During this self-care week you will only have positive thoughts about your family, the world, your career, your parents and your life. You will imagine the best possible scenario and live in the present moment fully.
Setting your intention for your self-care week: “I choose to release all of my concerns about my life, the world and the economy. I am committed to believing there is always a solution, there is an abundance of love, everything always works out and everything is in divine order. I choose to be peaceful no matter what situation arrises for me this week. I will take deep belly breaths and remember I am whole, safe, loved and needed!”
Here are a few fun things to converse about.
What are you passionate about that brings you joy? What was the wisest lesson you learned from your parent? When have you laughed the hardest lately and what were you laughing at? Who do you consider to be your role model and why? What is one of your favorite books and why? What was one of the silliest things you have ever done in your life  ?
- When you are going through a tough situation you notice your inner strength is stronger than your sadness.
- When you are going through a tough situation and you are focusing on the wisdom you are gaining and how you are expanding your heart- more parts of yourself.
- When you notice you are not personalizing other people’s behavior as much.
- When you notice you are able to vocalize and communicate instead of run away.
- When you have the courage and belief that you are cable of achieving something.
- When you describe situations from a higher, positive perspective.
- When you can see the goodness in others even when they are not feeling good about themselves.
- When you are able to forgive yourself easier.
- You are able to discern what isn’t working for you in relationships; you vocalize it in a responsible way and take action in a way that brings you to a healthy empowered place.
- You allow your true self to come out.
- You trust yourself, your intuition and feelings.
- You can laugh when you do silly things instead of reading yourself the riot act.
- You catch yourself when your mind is spinning on negative things or fixating on others too much, and you draw your energy back to positive thoughts more quickly.
- You are able to open your heart and love unconditionally.
- When you have more patience with your life path and your divine timing.
- When you able to be genuinely happy for others when they are doing well.
- When you are able to step into your feelings and be present without running or judging.
- When you notice that the people around you are wiser and more in their heart space than previous friends and romantic partners.
Can you relate to any of these?
Laurie Martin
http://www.SmileAcrossYourHeart.com
Dear Friends,
It’s been a long time since I’ve done a blog post.
A New addition to Smile Across Your Heart:
Surrender, Trust, Listen, and Take Action
When you feel frustrated or disappointed, this is the time to surrender. We are usually trying to control something or someone that is uncontrollable. Because we can’t control, we get frustrated, disappointed and feel out of control.
SURRENDER to God. Let it go. This doesn’t mean you’re being lazy or passive. This means you’re allowing space for the divine to do his/her magic! And, you are getting into a quiet calm space to hear your own divine intuition. There could be another possibility or opportunity that may be better for you that you may not be seeing right now. I understand living in the so called “unknown” can unsettling, but in the moment you have the opportunity to IMAGINE THE BEST OUTCOME FOR YOURSELF. What does that look like? This is a time for you to trust. This is a time to get quiet, listen and observe.
Surrendering means you have the courage and faith to believe that God knows more than you, that God is more powerful than you, and God has everything perfectly orchestrated for you. He does. And, you also have faith in yourself by believing in the best possible outcome, by getting into a space of trust and peace. ASK God to help you. Ask God if you can feel his/her love inside your heart. Ask God to hold your hand and help you through, ask him/her to handle the details of creating the best path for your highest good.
You will know when to take action. You will know which direction to go towards. It’s usually the path that brings peace.
I offer my life coaching services to you. Coaching sessions are done over the telephone. Read more about life coaching, click here: Life Coaching.
May you take action when your timing feels right! May you shine your heart to eternity!
Laurie Martin
A Boca Raton woman trapped on her knees in complete darkness for five days in the Haiti earthquake. She said, “Nothing is impossible with faith”. When asked, “How did you survive on your knees for five days? She said, “It was faith in the Lord.” She recited psalms, spoke encouraging words to another man and child, and at times screaming to be heard and found. Listening to this woman’s story, I was touched deeply inside my heart. This woman has an authentic and inspiring message to share! She knew her unwavering faith would carry her through, and with nothing else to do, she surrendered to her deep belief in God.
They say this woman will be fine- up and walking very soon! Thank God!
Everything is possible with a belief and faith in “possibilities.” When you find yourself wondering, questioning, or doubting – think of this woman sitting on her knees in darkness and pain for five days. Her spirit carried her through – and so can yours!
Let’s not let this woman’s suffering and profound message go to waste. Use this woman’s tragedy as a lesson for you to realize how powerful you are when you believe, trust and have faith in your life path, in divine orchestration and the beauty within yourself!!!
You are far from being alone. Every prayer, dream and thought is heard and seen. Now is the time to release your worries, fill yourself up with unconditional love from above, and imagine your life filled with love, joy, Truth, goodness and peace in all ways! Spend more time focusing on all the things you love, desire and enjoy! Allow your heart to lead you, and gravitate towards the things, environments and people that feel good, that lifts your spirit, that feeds your soul and allows you to shine!
“I choose to stay aligned with the highest frequencies of truth, love, faith, goodness and beauty!”
“I intend to keep my consciousness on the way I choose to live in all ways- on everything that I love, that feels good and is for the planet’s highest good.”
“I choose to believe everything is in divine order and I relax into the knowing that my thoughts, beliefs and desires take me to my heart’s destination.”
Please leave me your comments!
A heart full of love,
Laurie Martin
http://www.smilieacrossyourheart.com
It was a sunny Wednesday afternoon in southwest Florida as I was cruising north on route 41 heading directly to Stein Mart to look for a pair of shoes. In my head, I had the image of the type of shoes that I wanted to purchase to go with a particular outfit. My cell phone rings and it’s a friend whom I haven’t spoken to in several months. She said, “I’m driving right behind you.” I told her where I was headed and she said, “Oh, you need to go to DSW store.” She told me how to get there and off I went. I walked into the store and a very nice lady walked me right over to the type of shoes I was looking for – and they had my size. In five minutes I was making my purchase.
You too have had similar experiences where spirit is assisting you daily. We are not alone – there is an abundance of divine support!
Life is easier now – less effort, haven’t you noticed? I’m conflicted writing this because I know many people are struggling now with different life themes- separating in relationships, jobs, homes, while at the same time many people are living life more in the flow with strong foundations already built and the structures are coming together. At times, you may be looking over your shoulder, thinking something may fall apart because you are not accustom to this smooth ride. I’m here to tell you that this is the way it’s now! Trust how you feel, believe in yourself, believe things can flow easily and effortlessly!
We have done a lot of personal growth to get to this place, And, God has helped increase our frequency with placing a huge amount of unconditional love here on earth. Stay aligned and ride the frequency of love, faith and trust. If you need suport, I would be happy to offer my personal life coaching services to you. Email me at LaurieM@SmileAcrossYourHeart.com.
Big Blessings,
Laurie Martin
For many people, the holidays are a very joyous time. And, then there are many people that are looking forward to January 2010! Preparing for the holidays for those people may be a stressful time with visions of being with family members whom you don’t necessarily enjoy being around; and visions of crowded malls and parking lots, or eating too much unhealthy food, or maybe the thought of Uncle Rob drinking too much and making embarrassing comments adds some tension to your life. And, we may be missing loved ones during this season or concerned about money matters too.
How can we smile though the Holidays?
#1 Lets create your most joyous holiday intention and vision. Write down your intentions for the holiday. Include in your vision:
How do you want to feel? What would bring the most joy to your heart?
Where are you? Can you choose to spend the holiday is the most peaceful place for you?
Who are you CHOOSING to be with? What foods are you preparing or eating?
What does the energy feel like? Can you hear the holiday music? How does it make you feel? Are you laughing?
Are you playing games? Are you going for a family walk? Who are you talking to?
Are you singing songs? Are you playing outside? Are you going around the table and sharing what you’re thankful for this year? Are you in nature?
Are you playing fun table question games such as:
What is your most joyful memory in 2009?
What do you love most about your life and your family/friends?
What are you most grateful for in your life?
If you’re missing a loved one, it may feel good to share fond memories that you have had with her or him with others. It may feel comforting to imagine speaking directly to them as if they can hear and see you, and I believe they can.
How can you make this story happen? What action steps can you take to create this beautiful story? Please keep in mind you always have a choice of doing something different for the holidays. And, you have a choice which invitations you would like to accept and who you would like to invite. If you are the one hosting the family, make things a little less stressful on yourself.
• Allow others to help you by assigning tasks to family and friends.
• Have others bring a meal, a dessert or games.
• Prepare your meal and shopping in advance before the crowds.
• Play relaxing music with soy candles while you’re preparing your home festivities.
• Shop online to get out of holiday hustle and bustle.
• Drive or fly to your destination during off peak travel days.
• If you are going to someone’s home, ask if you can prepare one of your favorite dishes.
• If you are along, and don’t want to be, volunteer or visit a church or temple service.
Giving to others is always so much fun! Invite someone to your home who doesn’t have family, visit children in a hospital, pay the toll for someone behind you as you’re driving, or find away to help a charity.
If money is a concern, homemade gifts make wonderful presents. Another option is to offer a home cooked meal, give homemade healthy cookies wrapped up nicely, create gift certificates and write fun things on them such as, “good for four hours of babysitting, good or a one hour massage, or walking your dog”, use your talents and skills to create a gift, such as if you’re an artist, paint a picture. Check out this site for more tip ideas: http://www.tipjunkie.com/2009/11/creative-christmas-tutorials-diy.html
#2 Let’s look at your potential concerns.
List each of your concerns or the things that bring you the most stress and rate them on scale of 1-10, 10 being the worst feeling. Read the information below and see if this applies to any of your concerns. After reading this, if your concerns are still just as strong then you may re-consider your holiday choices by alleviating the items that bring your the most stress. You always how the choice of saying, YES to peace and joy!
Here is a fictitious example: You don’t find it enjoyable to be around your brother in law Joe. Your brother in-law Joe is a know it all. He thinks he knows everything about everything and just doesn’t stop talking. Okay, fair enough. Let’s put that aside. Now let’s find that soft spot for Joe. Can this be an opportunity for you to have tolerance for someone different than you? Can you learn to be open to someone with different views, different way of thinking, and different level of consciousness or sense of humor? Can you hold space for him being exactly who he is without allowing his “being” to take you out of a space of peace? Can you hold your power within yourself and not feel threatened by him? Maybe, it’s time for you to use your voice and speak through your heart with Joe. The truth is, instead of listing all of the reasons that Joe is “wrong” as a human being, can he just BE who he is? Take a big breathe. What is he good at? How does he bring love into your family?
EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique is a great way to balance out your energy.
I can remember when I was younger saying, “How am I a part of my family?” And, you have heard the saying, “You can pick your friends but not your family.” That’s not really true. We do choose our family. When we are in spirit form before coming to earth, we choose our family based on the individual family members that will assist us in our life learning lessons and life purpose and who we are meant to help too. We are helping each other embrace and love more parts of our self. Our biggest adversary in life is our biggest gift. Underneath our anger we are learning when and how, and why we give our power away to others.
I had the epiphany that my brother who always hated that I was born– and as a child he would throw me down and actually hit me quit often and we continued fighting through high school. I realized that bless his heart, he was gifting me inner strength, toughness, and courage!!! I’m grateful to him! I don’t spend my daily life with him; we are in two different states. And, we speak roughly two to three times per month, I do love him very much and I do not harbor any anger. And that is the meaning of, “others are our teachers”! And, we are teachers for others too.
Now go back to your list of concerns and see if you can have a new perspective and see if your numbers on your rating scale have changed.
If you are alone for the holiday, and you really don’t want to be, let others know and give them the opportunity to invite you into their family festivities. And, you can consider volunteering at a local shelter or go to a church service.
Choose love over hate, peace over stress, right over wrong, authenticity over a lie.
My coaching services are avialable to you and as gift certificates! My book Smile Across Your Heart: The Process of Building Self-Love can be autographed and shipped anywhere too!
I wish you a relaxing and joyful holiday!
Laurie Martin
One theme I’m hearing a lot these days is, “I want to make a difference in people’s lives.” And, the good news is, it’s very easy!
One reason people are divinely driven to make a difference is because it feels good. It’s a wonderful and powerful feeling to know that you have been a catalyst of peace and harmony in someone’s life. This feeling is what brings true fulfillment!
Helping humanity heal: (Read each one slowly and think about the last time you did each one of these acts.)
Smile at strangers, listen to someone fully without bringing the conversation back to yourself, look into someone’s eyes and say, “I love you”, listen to someone without having to prove you’re right- just let them feel “heard”, communicate the positive qualities you see in others daily, allow room for people to “be” who they are, show your support with compassion, give something to someone – furniture, clothes, an old computer etc, call a relative you haven’t spoken to in awhile and tell them, “I was thinking about you”, answer your phone by saying, “I always have time for you!”, send blessings and prayers to all beings around the globe- maybe a stranger, admit you were wrong, take time to do something for another person, act dependable/reliable to others, lend your time or donate to a charity, instead of anger – have patience, give helpful information to another, tell someone they’re AMAZING without wanting anything from them, respond back to someone with a positive response ‘celebrating what they said’ without trying to prove you are wiser or know more than them, laugh with someone, show respect AND non judgment towards people, have an open mind to someone else’s view or someone who is different than you without trying to show how they are wrong, say “thank you” to anyone who shared their time or info with you, believe and treat all humans as EQUALS regardless of religion, race, sex, financial status, educational status, political status, physicality, eating habits, or age, remember a friend’s important event and ask them about it, share your passion(s) with the world, hold positive thoughts towards others and hold a positive vision and boundaries for yourself, follow your own heart callings and be mindful of self-care, hold reverence for the earth, all of nature, spirit and animals. These are all helping humanity in a big way!!! These are the acts of earth angels. If you are reading this, YOU are an earth angel!!!
Hold a vision for PEACE. The way to get there is through LOVE – through your heart.
YOU are a gift to humanity!!! I’m blessed to have you read my writings. Thank you!
Laurie
Laurie A. Martin
http://www.SmileAcrossYourHeart.com
http://www.SmileAcrossYourHeart.com/blog
Self- Love Speaker
Author of Smile Across Your Heart: The Processs of Building Self-Love
Certified Life Coach
Contributing Writer for several magazines including the “Ask Laurie” Columnist in Pulse Magazine, and the Heart to Heart advice column in the Naples Daily News.
Become a fan of Smile Across Your Heart on Facebook!
Did you know that our thoughts can effect other people’s health? We have the power to help our friends and family feel healthy by what we project onto them. And this happens with each thought we have about them every time we think of them. And, we don’t even have to be near them. Close your eyes. Say, “I ask & intend to connect with unconditional love.”
Get a picture in your mind of a person you want to send positive thoughts to. Say, “I’m connecting with their brain and I’m imagining perfect health for them, celebrating their spirit, and applauding their brilliance and wholeness! I’m so happy for their happiness and successes!!”
Close your eyes. Breathe in and out through your nose. Relax all of your muscles.
Say, “I ask and intend to connect with the frequency of unconditional love. I connect with my higher all wise self. I accept all of my feelings and emotions that I’m having right now. I love them! I love them! And, they are invited to stay if they want to stay, and welcome to go whenever they are ready to go. I accept “what is” going on with me in this present moment:” Take a big breath.
“I have no judgment of my feelings. A feeling is just that, a feeling. And, I know feelings flow in and flow out. I’m accepting of what is inside me, and what is outside of me in this moment, for this is my truth. I love that I can be authentic! I love that I can love my feelings and emotions without making them wrong or bad. I trust life, and I trust myself. I trust I will navigate through my life path, and I’m choosing to do so with peace. I bless my current life situation. I am open to learning. I love myself. I believe that I have many wonderful resources. I choose to live in the energy of abundance!! And, living in this frequency of abundant living, I know from the depths of my being that everything always works out. I trust the magnificent natural intelligence of my body, I believe there are enough jobs, friends, lovers and money for everyone, and I know my perfect resources are aligned in my divine path. And, I choose to be aligned with situations and friends that feed my soul, nourish my spirit and light up my heart! I’m so excited for all the love I share with others, and so grateful for all the ways the universe loves me!”
Now list all the ways the universe loves you in the comment field below!
Laurie A. Martin
http://www.SmileAcrossYourHeart.com
http://www.SmileAcrossYourHeart.com/blog
Self- Love Speaker
Author of Smile Across Your Heart: The Processs of Building Self-Love
Certified Life Coach
Advice Columnist for several magazines including the “Ask Laurie” Columnist in Pulse Magazine, and the Heart to Heart column in the Naples Daily News.
Become a fan of Smile Across Your Heart on Facebook!
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