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  Happy New Year! We have all gone through different size life transitions, personal challenges and much spiritual growth. I personally thank you! As each of us does our personal growth work we are raising our vibration another octave higher and with this increase we are assisting with the increase of raising the earth’s vibration. Thank you for all you have endured and for staying aligned to love, trust and faith!

I hope you enjoy this month’s article. The intention is for you to celebrate the emotional wealth you created and be proud of yourself! In many cases, it was not given to you, you had to dig deep!

I’m humbly grateful my Smile Across Your Heart radio show is now a “FEATURED” SHOW. You can listen FOR FREE to the thirty minute recent show by clicking on this link: The Difference Between Self-love and Arrogance!

January 6, Thursday, 12 noon is the next Smile Across Your Heart radio show, “Creating Your Bucket Full of Love!”

 Something to be Proud of – Your Emotional Wealth

If you didn’t grow up with parents giving you regular and stable unconditional love, encouraging your spirits with verbal supporting positive accolades, positive emotional support and regular physical affection, you fought for every ounce of self –love. You learned how to support yourself through disappointments, through insecurities and even childhood traumas. You mustered every ounce of encouragement to spark your drive and have the courage to believe in yourself and your capabilities. With a parent filled with their own fears, doubting your decisions and choices, you had to fight harder and dig deeper to stay true to your inner core and hold a light to your dreams!

For many years you wanted your mom or dads to think you were successful, you learned success to you may be different than their definition. Each time you shared a positive story and didn’t receive the supportive response you so desperately wanted, you learned that this parent of yours was showing you that you didn’t need his/her approval, you needed to dip even deeper and appreciate yourself and stop giving your power away. You understood this parent was acting like a mirror reflecting your insecurity back to you. You learned to say to yourself, “Stop “needing” this validation from him/her because you are not going to get it in the way you want it.” You told yourself, “I must validate myself!” You learned to appreciate their way of showing you love. Wow, the inner strength kept on building. They really knew how to challenge your emotional and mental character!

Your parents may have been more traditional, had specific expectations for you and didn’t understand your out of the box philosophies but you had the courage and fortitude to do things your way. You learned that all human beings including yourself are only capable of giving what you have inside to give. You love your parents very much and appreciate everything they have given, taught, provided and shared including their wonderful qualities that you did inherit that helped mold your character!

You learned to stop wishing your parents were different than they were because you understood that you chose your parents for your divine learning lessons. And, you understood every time you wished they were different it was like you were saying that you weren’t good enough. You knew you had to stop wishing things were different and accept them exactly like they had been. You discovered once you accepted everyone and everything without wanting or wishing they were different, you found your everlasting inner peace.

Being angry at them didn’t serve any good. It only held you inside a prism of anger. And, you knew you were missing the bigger picture—that everything WAS and always had been in divine order. As a child you may not have always understood and may have questioned, “How did I end up here in this family?” You now know that as a divine spirit before coming to earth, you carefully chose your families for your life learning lessons. You knew precisely which aspects you wanted to learn more about within yourself, and the family you chose would provide that opportunity.

Your parents, at times, had the COURAGE to be mean, selfish, and emotionally unavailable, controlling, to be negative and non-supportive. This forced you to probe as deep as one can go—to grow in your inner strength, self-love, your courage, your decisive focus, and your ability to learn how to be your own best friend! They gifted you emotional and mental WEALTH. You know you can count on yourself! And, you kept your heart open to support, share, give and love others. You understand your parents did the best they could, coming from a different era, a consciousness that was saturated in fear and possibly different environments. You learned to have compassion and understanding for them and appreciate their many wonderful qualities! You bless them and thank them for a job well done!

This emotional wealth is worth millions in prosperity! You should be very proud of yourself!!! You were not handed self-love, encouragement, unconditional love, indomitable perseverance, and inner strength on a silver platter– YOU EARNED IT EVERY STEP OF THE WAY. You did the hard work and came out strong! Congratulations!!! You are my hero! Look how much you can love!

If I can help you in a personal life challenge, I offer my telephone life coaching services to you. Coaching sessions are done over the telephone. Read more about life coaching, click here: Life Coaching.

 I’m excited for my new personal accountability challenge! Everything we do either has a positive or negative effect on our world. And, now even more, our world needs our help! It’s time to really step it up. It’s encouraging to know that my own daily actions can help our world. Taking accountability is a representation of “truth” and “right action” which impacts the frequency of the collective consciousness and our own personal empowerment.

Everyday occurrences, even being aware and accountable for the small occurrences makes a difference. There have been times that we may have made excuses in our mind, told small white lies or pretended we were not responsible for something by making someone else accountable.

The planet is correcting itself now, and needs our help. As you have noticed, anything that is not set with a foundation of truth, honesty, kindness and oneness is coming up to the surface in consciousness, coming out in public for us to see. These actions of corruption, malicious behavior and deceit can’t hide any longer and people are being forced to take personal accountability. Let’s build our empowerment by voluntarily looking for ways to be 100% personally accountable.

Start by waking up in the morning and asking, “How can I help our planet? How can I be honest in all of my relationships, in business and my actions? How can I show empathy and compassion to others? How can I heal my own areas of judgment, racism, sexism, ageism, rage, and pain? How can I behave in a way that is the exact way I would like to be treated? How can I treat my body and mind with love and respect? How can I express from my heart? How can I connect with others on a heart level?

 Look for these small daily occurrences to make a positive change. Here are some examples:

1. You purchase items in a store, walking to your car you notice they gave you .50 more than you were owed. Do you go back to the store? Yes.
2. You miss a business appointment. They call you to find out what happened. Do you lie and make up an excuse? No, you apologize and explain the truth.
3. You’re taking a walk and you see a water bottle on the ground. Do you pick it up or ignore it and keep on walking?
4. You are at a party talking to a group of your friends. You see someone all alone standing in the corner. Do you turn away and pretend it’s not your responsibility to show kindness and compassion to this person or do you walk over and introduce yourself?
5. Do you feel good about your recycling efforts or do you look the other way sometimes?
6. You are receiving flirtatious behavior from a married man. Do you flirt back?
7. You are unhappy in your marriage. Do you look for emotional support somewhere else from the opposite sex?
8. Your neighbor’s garbage can is knocked over and was pushed into the street. Do you ignore it or pick it up and bring it up to your neighbor’s home?
9. When asked questions that you are uncomfortable answering, do you try to make the other person wrong?
10.  During your day, do you have more negative thoughts towards others and yourself versus positive?
11. Do you expect a professional to give you their time for free? 

 I would love to hear how you are accountable for your daily occurrences. Please share!

 I personally thank you for your healing contribution to our world!

Love & Big Blessings!

With Gratitude,

Laurie Martin

Laurie Martin is a leader in the arena of Self-Love – body, spirit and mind. As a professional speaker, certified life coach, author of Smile Across Your Heart: The Process of Building Self-love, yoga teacher and radio host . Laurie Martin shares her passion and knowledge guiding others “how to” increase self- love, confidence, self-esteem and live a truthful, peaceful, empowered life. She has two columns, one in the Naples Daily News called Heart to Heart, and the Ask Laurie column in Pulse Magazine. Sign up for her FREE newsletter, Visit http://www.SmileAcrossYourHeart.com.

Sick of hearing all of the negative news everywhere you turn? Worrying about your home, daily needs and our world affairs can be a little stressful too.

 Take a week off from watching the news, reading the newspaper and engaging in conversations that make your blood boil or worrying about your parents. Instead, give yourself a “self-care” week. During this week, engage in conversations with people that are a positive influence in your life discussing things that make you happy, you will read only inspiring books, watch uplifting movies with happy endings, eat healthy organic fruits and vegetables, do your favorite cardiovascular exercise and take plenty of warm Epsom salt baths. During this self-care week you will only have positive thoughts about your family, the world, your career, your parents and your life. You will imagine the best possible scenario and live in the present moment fully.

 Setting your intention for your self-care week: “I choose to release all of my concerns about my life, the world and the economy. I am committed to believing there is always a solution, there is an abundance of love, everything always works out and everything is in divine order. I choose to be peaceful no matter what situation arrises for me this week. I will take deep belly breaths and remember I am whole, safe, loved and needed!”

 Here are a few fun things to converse about.

 What are you passionate about that brings you joy? What was the wisest lesson you learned from your parent? When have you laughed the hardest lately and what were you laughing at? Who do you consider to be your role model and why? What is one of your favorite books and why? What was one of the silliest things you have ever done in your life ?

1. When you are going through a tough situation you notice your inner strength is stronger than your sadness.
2. When you are going through a tough situation and you are focusing on the wisdom you are gaining and how you are expanding your heart- more parts of yourself.
3.  When you notice you are not personalizing other people’s behavior as much.
4. When you notice you are able to vocalize and communicate instead of run away.
5. When you have the courage and belief that you are cable of achieving something.
6. When you describe situations from a higher, positive perspective.
7. When you can see the goodness in others even when they are not feeling good about themselves.
8. When you are able to forgive yourself easier.
9. You are able to discern what isn’t working for you in relationships; you vocalize it in a responsible way and take action in a way that brings you to a healthy empowered place.
10. You allow your true self to come out.
11. You trust yourself, your intuition and feelings.
12. You can laugh when you do silly things instead of reading yourself the riot act.
13. You catch yourself when your mind is spinning on negative things or fixating on others too much, and you draw your energy back to positive thoughts more quickly.
14. You are able to open your heart and love unconditionally.
15. When you have more patience with your life path and your divine timing.
16.  When you able to be genuinely happy for others when they are doing well.
17.  When you are able to step into your feelings and be present without running or judging.
18. When you notice that the people around you are wiser and more in their heart space than previous friends and romantic partners.

 Can you relate to any of these?

Laurie Martin

http://www.SmileAcrossYourHeart.com